Let’s talk about this week’s hot and controversial topic #collegeadmissionscandal.
It’s wrong. Period. And it’s not just something the ‘rich and elite’ would do but the middle class is just as guilty. I am just as guilty (sorta). Not to the extremes of photoshopping my son into Little League Soccer or paying off admissions counsellors (he’s five)…
But several years ago, I jokingly told my husband to get the cheque book out and be prepared to slip a ‘donation’ alongside the preschool application to ‘move CJ to the front of the line’… I was half laughing but bang on serious because I didn’t know what else to do.
Elite mentality? No. Desperate mom? Yes.
In Toronto, child care options for ages 1-3 are scarce. So scarce, that as more young families are choosing to raise their kids downtown, the waitlist could be up to 2+ years for reputable daycares and private schools!
It’s so bad that for new parents living in The 6ix, we can only partially blame sleepless nights on a crying baby. The other contributor is due to this BROKEN SYSTEM where there is a high premium and looooong wait for EVERYTHING that involves children.
So while I didn’t end up having to make that donation — plus it did occur to me that a morally ethical school wouldn’t accept it anyway haha. I ended up applying for 3 schools and landed a spot for my top pick at a wonderful Montessori School by being over-prepared and organized… basically waddling in at 8 months pregnant to meet with the Owner/Director and dropping a large deposit to secure CJ his spot for TWO YEARS LATER! I won the golden ticket.
Sure my story to help my son get ahead is much less dramatic than the college bribery scandal but it’s made me revisit that desperate ‘new mom’ phase. And this topic continues to flood mommy groups on social media in all major cities. Moms need to go back to work and as they walk away teary-eyed (as I often did), they need to be assured that we did our due diligence in picking the right place where our babies will be safe, happy and thriving.
There was no fraudulent intent on my part, and the entire school would benefit from my donation but would you consider it (on a lesser scale) the same-difference as what Lori Loughlin did for her daughter, Olivia?
If you could, would you think about doing the same as I did or what better options could I have taken? I would love to hear your opinion!